Hugs, lies and other condiments about Asperger's

In my childhood all those who had atypical behaviors were given different names, such as those who suffered from mood swings were called venastenics, while introverts were called lunatics, as if the veins or the moon were responsible for this. Clinically the label was much more fatalistic because they were generally schizophrenic.

In such a way that, without going too much into causes and effects, there was a dose for everyone and this has resulted in the current overdose of labels for any different human being.

Thank God I had to live my childhood in a less hostile environment, perhaps because it was less technified, where circustanciality allowed me to go unnoticed and atypical things had to be very noticeable to be taken into account and phobias or hobbies did not have such a specific weight as it happens nowadays, because no doubt my little fondness for hugs would have crucified me. Fuente de imagen

I constantly read about many manias that are foisted on Aspergers, as if this were a wrong sign of being "weird", as if we were all laboratory mice that by presenting an individual habit, it becomes generalized and ends up confusing everyone. In such a way that an asocial attitude is enough to belong to the unknown world studied by the Austrian psychologist.

And this, rather than helping, has turned into an ordeal where by "discarding" "truths" are eliminated and "lies" are added, and although progress has been made in creating common parameters, the cause that produces the reactions is taken lightly.

And this, rather than helping, has turned into an ordeal where "truths" are eliminated by "discarding" and "lies" are added, and although progress has been made in creating common parameters, the cause of the reactions is taken lightly, for example, those who are not used to fix their eyes or look into the eyes of their interlocutor, being a child or adult, are labeled with Asperger, also those who do not like to hug, those who have a characteristic way of speaking or more commonly those who suffer sudden changes of adaptation or who find it difficult to wait.

Thus there are hundreds of signs that in a great number of times create misdiagnoses, because they can be common also in people with other pathologies, for example shyness, poor parental affection, physical problems and even schizophrenia, just to name a few.

The "fashion" has diverted the attention to study more deeply the cause of the reactions and the lack of a specific specialization for these cases produces that the optics to identify those who are "different" end up being confusing. Fuente de imagen

My biggest phobia has undoubtedly been hugging and although I have adapted to the fact that this is only a protocol act for most people, there are times when my "lunatic" side prevents me from doing it even if my brain orders the opposite, so that at that moment it is impossible for me to do it and this has generated some inconveniences for those who see it as a snub and at a sentimental level inevitable disasters.

For me physical contact is a deeper and more sentimental exchange, something of greater intimacy, where a higher dose of trust and love is needed than for others, although this is not binding in some cases for the rest of people who are Asperger's and there are times when that phobia has marked important moments in my live.

To name just one, the inability to give my dying mother the hug I wanted, perhaps because I associated the fact that she would die quickly after I did this, something that eventually happened even though I was unable to hug her.

Everything is relative in life and that thin line is broken all the time by those who still do not understand that divergences are not strangeness but an everyday part of life and that normality has no parameters. [Fuente de imagen](

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